8 amazing tips from Mark and Angel, http://www.marcandangel.com/2014/12/17/8-ways-to-free-your-mind-and-take-back-control-of-your-life/
Since we were born, our minds have been gradually programmed by our surroundings and by society at large. As we grow, evolve and awaken to this reality, we learn that it is in our best interests to uninstall some of this programming and take back control of our minds.
What are we taking control back from, specifically? Well, in part, the immense amount of cultural, societal and institutional brainwashing that has greatly influenced who we are and how we view ourselves and our abilities.
For example, despite what you may have heard… You don’t need to be a person who requires everyone to approve of them. Your relationships don’t need to model modern day sitcoms. Your daily energy doesn’t need to be directed by mindless drama, which is often stirred just to distract you from your deeper purpose and passions.
You can clear yourself of this corrupt thinking and reclaim your sanity and effectiveness.
But it’s hard, because distractions are everywhere, pulling at us and creating needless points of focus meant to disempower us. They drive us into compulsive consumerism and egotism, rather than meaningful connections and emotional freedom.
So today, it’s time to flip the switch. It’s time to free your mind and take back control of your life. Here are eight smart ways to start doing just that:
- Be selective about the media you consume. – Marketers all across the world are tracking your patterns, buying your personal information and studying your online and offline habits in order to funnel you into purchasing products from the companies that hire them. If you are inclined to cave, and make impulsive, unhealthy purchases – like greasy fast food – they are aware of this, even to the exact percentage of likelihood that you will make this impulse buy. They push ads upon you until your willpower gets weak. This is just one form of mind control being practiced publicly every day. It’s manipulative and it was created to be. You have to take back control from these mega-corporations by making strong-willed, healthy decisions that support YOUR best interests. Buy things that benefit you and those you love, not things that benefit big companies that don’t care about you.
- Prioritize YOUR desires ahead of external and internal resistance. – You’re the one that’s got to die when it’s time for you to die, so let yourself live life the way you want to live it. Seriously, life is too short to waste profuse amounts of time wondering what other people think about you. In the first place, if they had better things going on in their lives, they wouldn’t have the time to sit around and talk about you. What should be important to you is not their opinions of you, but your opinion of yourself. So don’t let others get in your way! And don’t let your fears get in your way either; they’re not there to scare you. They’re there to let you know that something is worth it. If a particular pursuit makes you feel alive, stand strong and step forward, no matter what. (Read The Happiness of Pursuit.)
- Stop wishing for it and start working for it. – Do what you have to do today so you can do what you want to do tomorrow. Through the grapevine you may have heard that what you should want is “an easy life.” But that’s not true; what you really want is a life you are proud to have lived, and that takes work. Because the only way that we can truly live, is if we grow. The only way that we can grow is if we change. The only way that we can change is if we learn. The only way we can learn is if we are exposed. And the only way that we can become exposed is if we are willing to put ourselves out there and work through life’s difficulties. Do it! It’s worth it!
- Create healthy daily rituals. – The person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be every single day. Because how you spend your days is how you spend your life. In a nutshell, when it comes to working hard to achieve a substantial life goal of any kind – earning a degree, building a business, fostering a relationship, raising a family, becoming more mindful, or any other personal achievement that takes time and commitment – one thing you have to ask yourself is: “Am I willing to spend a little time every day like many people won’t, so I can spend the better part of my life like many people can’t?” Think about it. We ultimately become what we repeatedly work hard at. And isn’t it funny how day by day nothing changes, but when you look back everything is different? That’s the power of daily rituals. (Angel and I discuss this in detail in the “Goals and Success” chapter of 1,000 Little Things Happy, Successful People Do Differently.)
- Flip your perspective from negative to positive. – We can complain because rose bushes have thorns, or rejoice because thorn bushes have roses. You’ve heard this before. Don’t let negativity influence you. When others are being negative, ignore them. Keep in mind that how others see things is rarely the truth. There are no facts, only interpretations, and it is our interpretations that make us or break us. If you look at things the right way, you can see that the whole world is a beautiful garden. It’s your job to tend to it, and to see and appreciate the roses. Because in the end, the quality of your vision drives the quality of your living. Train your mind to see the beauty in everything. Positivity is a choice. The happiness of your life depends on the effectiveness of your perspective.
- Stop looking for and expecting “perfect.” – You are flawed, so is everyone you know, and that’s just as it should be. Seriously, have no fear of perfection; you will never reach it. And don’t expect that others will achieve it either. We’re all imperfect beings filled with flaws and imperfections, therefore we shouldn’t wish to highlight the weaknesses of others at the expense of denying our own. In the end, you will come to realize that perfection, especially in relationships, is only ever found in the beauty and honest appreciation of imperfection. (Read The Gifts of Imperfection.)
- Give yourself a break. – Yes, you have battles out in the world to fight, insecurities to overcome, loved ones to contend with and goals to achieve, but a break from it all is necessary. It’s perfectly healthy to pause and let the world spin without you for a while. If you don’t, you will burn yourself out. So refill your bucket on a regular basis. That means catching up on sleep, making time for laughter and fun, eating healthy enough to maintain solid energy levels, and otherwise making time for recovery from the chaos of your routine.
- Loosen your grip on the past. – Sometimes we have to let go of what’s killing us, even if it’s killing us to let go. Letting go means to come to the realization that some circumstances and relationships are a part of your history, but not a part of your destiny. Cry. Forgive. Learn. Move forward. Let your tears water the seeds of your future happiness. And remember, sometimes the hardest part isn’t the act of letting go but rather learning to start over. This is normal. This is a new day. A new beginning. And things will change for the better.
I woke up this morning with a heavy heart and a lot on my mind. I opened my email and read these 7 great things. Thanks http://www.marcandangel.com/2013/01/28/7-things-happy-people-say-every-day/#more-571 I feel that I am ready to take on anything!!
You have the right words within you to make every day a happy one.
Here’s what you need to say and why:
If you’re reading this right now, SMILE, you’re alive. The possibilities ahead of you are infinite, it’s true. Think about this and let it inspire you.
A good life begins right now with a choice. It’s going to be fun, finger-snapping kind of day if you want it to be. Choose wisely and indulge in the goodness. Enjoy the sights and sounds, watch the clouds, stare at the stars, and imagine yourself dancing among them.
Your life is for smiling, imagining, exploring, learning, hugging, sharing, caring, helping, and healing. Choose to do these things. Choose to make the most of the gift you’ve been given. Wake up every morning in such a way that the negativity committee lingering in the back of your mind says, “Oh crap, not another happy day!”
William James once said, “Action may not always bring happiness, but there is no happiness without action.” Everything you do is only as big as you are, and you grow by taking action and working hard. But even more importantly, remember that hard work is only ‘hard to do’ only when it has no meaning to you.
If your daily work is becoming uninteresting, so is your life and so are you. Your work is going to fill a large percentage of your time on Earth, so the only way to make the majority of it lively and interesting is by enthusiastically injecting yourself into work that aligns with your purpose.
That’s the key. Find work that means something to you, or connect your work to a goal that has meaning, and then persist at it. Read The Success Principles.
Forget failure, or any other outcome whatsoever. If you try something – to improve yourself, to eliminate debt, to lose weight, to make a relationship work, to make the world a better place, etc. – you have already achieved something brilliant regardless of the end result. Trying is always enough.
If things don’t work out the way you had hoped, hold your head up and be proud that you gave it your best shot. Then try again. Ultimately, each mistake teaches you something new about your goal and yourself. There is no failure except in never trying again. It is always the courage to continue that counts in the end.
Life is a choir made up of many voices, including your own. Join in and sing your part. Let the harmony ring. It may sound silly to you now, but sometimes all you need in life is for someone to sing beside you.
One day you’re going to look back on smiles and songs you shared with others and smile and sing some more. Because it’s sincere human connections – the sharing of a moment – that gives life it’s best music. Sometimes it happens when you reach out and help someone sing their verse, and other times it’s allowing another to reach out and help you sing yours.
Gratitude leads to greatness. It can literally turn what we have into more than enough, jobs into joy, chaos into order, uncertainty into clarity, and bring peace to an otherwise chaotic day.
The greatest way to make your blessings count is to count your blessings. Acknowledging the good things you already have in your life is of the essence, because whatever you appreciate and give thanks for will grow stronger in your life. Read The How of Happiness.
How you respond to life’s little tragedies is what shapes your character. Crap happens sometimes, you’ve got to deal with it and move on. Don’t hide from it. If your dreams are out in the world somewhere and you’re inside hiding, the only new things that will gather in your mind are anxiety and bitterness. Eventually that anxiety and bitterness will eat away at you and leave nothing behind but an unhappy shell of your former self.
So when the crap hits the fan, as it sometimes will, stop and say it out loud: “I’m OK.”
Besides, the ones who fall and get up are so much stronger than the ones who never fell. Often it’s the deepest difficulties which empower human beings to rise and grow into their highest, happiest selves. The ones who win the race in the long run are usually not the quickest or luckiest, but the ones who have endured the most. Read Feel the Fear… and Do It Anyway.
Happiness is a quest – a journey of magnitude. It’s a something you feel – a longing that pulls your thoughts and efforts in a specific direction. You strive for it daily, persisting in your pursuit against the odds, and sometimes find yourself traveling to faraway lands to get closer to it.
The happiest moments will be the unexpected breakthroughs on this lifelong journey, as you participate relentlessly in exploring and manifesting your own blessings. Happiness will never be something you hold at the end, but something you DO to get there.
KNOW who you are, ACCEPT who you are & BE who you are.
As the winter sets in and we watch the weather change, the water become colder and the days become shorter it seems to take the motivation right out of us. For me especially because it makes it harder to go paddle and do what I love. Finding the motivation to go out in 30-40 degree water and paddle is hard but I find that if I talk with someone about my goals and aspirations it makes loading up the OC, SUP or paddleboard a little easier. Check out this article from Crossfit Invictus on how to stay motivated.
Five Ways to Stay Motivated
Written by Nichole DeHart
Studies have shown that those who make public their desired goals are 10 times more likely to achieve that goal. Now, it is important to keep that initial motivation alive and strong! Here are a few key points to help you do just that.
1. Review your goals. Go back to the goals you initially set and make sure you are on track to meet them. This is a nice way to assess where you are in achieving your goal and if you need to make any changes to ensure you reach your goal. If you are on track with your goals, then even more motivation to continue what you are doing!
2. Measure your progress. I don’t mean get on the scale when I say to measure your progress. The scale can be very deceptive and not tell the truth about all the changes your body is making. Instead, measure your progress in other areas. Take a look at just a few areas that you could already be seeing improvements in:
• Sleep quality
• Energy levels are higher throughout the day
• Reduction in stress levels
• Clearer skin (fewer rashes, acne, etc…)
• Leaner appearance
• Less bloating
• Less swollen
• Reduced allergies
• Fewer mood swings
3. Keep it interesting! Try new recipes to keep your taste buds excited about trying new, clean meals. One of my favorite cookbooks is from our very own Michele Vieux, Roaming The Globe. Her cookbook has recipes that are not only delicious, but really simple to make (both things are a must when I am trying a new recipe). You can download a copy of her cookbook here: http://www.roamingtheglobepaleo.com/.
4. Maximize your new found energy! Since eating a cleaner diet, many find that they have much more energy. Use that energy to get outside and enjoy nature! Getting outside can be a great way for anyone to hit the ‘reset’ button and reflect on how great their body is feeling.
5. Rally your support troops. This challenge should be enjoyable and something that enhances your life. Make sure you share that with your friends and loved ones who are there to support you each step of the way. Have a clean eating get-together. Make a social event out of your meal prep day and make a feast for the week. Whatever you decide to do, make sure you surround yourself by friends who are only going to support you and encourage you to continue on your healthy journey.
Lastly, make sure to speak of the new changes you have made with your lifestyle with positive terminology instead of negative. Our words and mindset can have a huge impact on our actions so it’s important that we speak positively about ourselves to ensure we make healthy and healthful decisions.
Developing as an athlete is one of the funnest things to go through. Watching yourself get fit and strong while feeling comfortable in your sport is motivating. The way that you feel is as though you can take on any thing and execll at it. Be patient it only gets better. Patience is a hard thing to work with especially as you become faster and more fit. You will want to see more results and go even faster which is great but it can hurt you and hold back development to get stronger and go faster if you push too far. Patience also allows you to see the fun in your respected sport and fun is the reason why we do what we do! Yes you will want to stay focused but you can have focused fun and still achieve goals and produce results. Results will come to those who work hard and dream big but add in some patience and the possibilities are endless. This world is full of NOW, i want it now and most people can get what they want right now. When it comes to really being the best in sport I believe you need to be patient, work on the details, put the work in and allow yourself to grow as an athlete.